Secret Boyfriend

This is a wonderful scent! I absolutely love it and wanted to share how I've been using it this past winter. I have to get up very early to get my daughter off to school, and the mornings are dark, cold and rushed. I use this beautiful scent as a little bit of aromatherapy on those cold mornings. It's too early to choose a perfume for the day and I can't take the time to think about it, so this became my early morning go-to. It is cozy and comforting and so pleasant - a perfect accompaniment to my sweater and brewing coffee while diving into the morning rush. I'm using the oil rollerball and the Water Mist spray together, which I wasn't sure if I would like but it turns out I LOVE using it this way! It creates a lovely little scented cloud for a couple of hours. It doesn't last super long - but that's totally fine and actually perfect, because once I get myself dressed and ready for the day a few hours later, I tend to choose a more traditional EDP for the rest of the day. Whatever remains of Secret Boyfriend just acts as a sweet little cozy layer under my other EDP. I look forward to this scent every morning and find the oil rollerball + water mist combo to work perfectly for me this way! Now that spring is here, I am sampling more Poesie scents to find one I can use like this through the warmer months, which I'll enjoy first thing in the morning and then the remains will be a lovely little base layer under my summer daytime scent. Thank you Poesie, I'm really loving your products!!

Shame this didn't make it to the permanent catalog. It may be voted "most similar" to Sleepy Ghost (I really disagree) but Secret Boyfriend is one of Poesie's more layered, nuanced, & interesting fragrances, more in line with Whisper Your Bitter Things. I hope it can make a reappearance ? Perhaps Secret Boyfriend just wasn't selling well, as folks that went looking for marshmallow scents were scared away by the leather note. I personally don't like leather frags on me & the leather jacket accord in Secret Boyfriend is sooo subtle... It really just adds to the scent, I can't explain it any other way... I can see the typically "masculine" notes making feminine customers wary.. but if you have ANY inclination to "unisex" fragrances, especially outdoorsy marshmallow scents, then you mustn't miss out on Secret Boyfriend, even if it is just a mere sample.. Promise you will love it.

my absolute favorite poesie scent. it's such a comforting, warm scent that is a really beautiful balance of being feminine and masculine. it's sweet and woody, with an almost powdery aspect to it that makes it such a beautifully soft fragrance. perfect for cold weather. reminds of like a grandma who lives in old cabin and this is what her hand-made quilts smell like by the fireplace.

Brings me back to highschool fall & winter, making out with my boyfriend for hours. Wearing a sweet body spray, leather jacket on & the smoke from toasted smores we snacked on during those times while "Superbad" or "American Pie" was on. "Just one more kiss" would turn into an hour. I knew in the back of my mind I had to go home, but after all... he was my "secret boyfriend"

The reviews under this scent get me. This is amazing. I usually don’t like marshmallow or leather but I LOVE THIS. It’s so pretty and comforting. It doesn’t smell like perfume to me, just like a warm hug from an attractive, kind, motorcycle driving man

I feel like I’m having a guilty affair with this scent. Her name rings too-true through me with all the bone chilling seriousness of a prophecy finally realized. I’m being dramatic, she’s very sweet. She really is so sweet. I keep telling myself I have an aversion to sweet and girly scents but this specific perfume made me realize my feelings on the subject are so much more complicated. She sat me down and told me I need to come clean, that I need to tell them; the woody notes, the ouds, the smokes, the leathers, about my REAL feelings. That I need to tell them who really gets me there. That she’s tired of our love being confined to the shadows, that I’m a sick bitch for sniffing her up in secret. That she deserves to be waxed poetic about, deserves to be displayed with pride, spoken about with all the seriousness and reverence I reserve for “stronger” scents. (At this she would sneer, but somehow still so sweetly.) She says she knows my heart, she says I know deep down I want her when I’m alone. And honestly true. Like yeah I’m obsessed with her! When I first opened and smelled my sample I felt euphoria. I felt something tingle in my brain. It just did something to me. Like an instant jolt of peacefulness straight through my dome and down my spine. I don’t want to just smell sweet and cute and girly, it doesn’t feel like me. But I’m drawn to that orbit. Maybe I want to feel like I could have been a girl like that. Like maybe I was a girl like that, at least a little bit, and maybe that girl grew up to shape a part of the woman I’m trying to understand myself as now. As a girl I always felt deeply in love with and deeply outside of girlhood. I have an idea that this is where my reluctance (and guilty pleasure) to claim sweet scents is coming from. Or maybe it’s because I’m gay. Who knows! Poesie’s Secret Boyfriend is holding my hand down the road to understanding, though. Context given for the irony of how I think my skin might just pull sweet with scents. what can ya do etc. etc. This is the scent that made me realize I really like marshmallow notes, I just feel like it’s a special sweetness. I’m accepting it and working through my complexes, okay. The notes breakdown of this scent is so close to my exact ideal it makes me tremble, but it just doesn’t do that on my skin. I get a little of these other notes, and I adore them. They are so good. I really appreciate Poesie’s blending, the subtleties are wonderful. But I want these other notes besides the sweetness to be less subtle in this one. I get the smoke, but it’s as if I smelled it in a dream, as if upon waking I can only ever recall it with increasing romanticism; never truly remembering how it really smelled. (Did I even smell it at all?) I get the leather, but it’s the arm of a stranger in a leather jacket brushing against me on their way out of the bar, a passing possibility that’s never acted on, only existing in my mind because the stranger never looked back at me. (Did I ever even see their eyes?) The naming and Twin Peaks reference is so astute because there is something dreamy about this, something of two worlds. Existing in one world as sweetness against my skin and in another as these soft edges in theory. These edges are there, but they are more of a suggestion than anything outright on me. Obviously I still fuck with it heavily though. The dry down is sweet, sweet, sweet. (Which makes sense, I mean, duh marshmallow) It opens the same way it closes, sweet, but with a gentle smoky and almost musky scratch. It’s subtle. I wish I got more of that! In the dry down I just get the marshmallow and kind of a splash of vanilla. A liiiittle powdery. Almost cheap and like body spray smelling on me then but I still can’t bring myself to hate it. I feel like all four of the Poesie scent’s I’ve sampled have a similar effect to varying degrees. But again, I have a hunch my skin amps sweet notes, and reading other reviews it seems maybe someone else would get more of that sexy wood/leather/smoke that’s alluding me. Because of the sweet and almost vanilla drydown it just doesn’t fully feel like me, but I love wearing it. Especially in secret and soft moments. She is my secret boyfriend, it’s just true.

yes! super into this and getting much better performance from it than i usually do from perfume oils! the sweetness of the marshmallow blends so beautifully w the depth of the woods & leather, so pleasant and easy to wear! i don't really get any specific nostalgia from it and i don't think it actually smells like a man, but it does have kind of the sweetness of the feeling of being with your boyfriend, if that makes sense. chosesvert is so right abt the "dreamy" + warm in the chest feeling. it's nice! comforting and cozy like ur bf. i get a very slight "hippie shop" undertone, maybe incense (or patchouli) in there somewhere

coming here to add to the good reviews. yes i too do not like sweet scents, leather scents, but this works beautifully. the smoke and the leather perfectly compliment each other. and the marshmellow note is there to add comfort and joy. they nailed this. it really is a secret cute boyfriend who loves you and comes to pick you up on his motorcycle. while your father is errr.. ya. lol. its perfect for the "bad boy who hates everyone but you" trope. only you get to know his soft sweet side

aw! cocoa on a cold day, and the warm feeling in your chest at the first sip. It's evocative of how I used to feel as a schoolgirl thinking about actors I liked, or ships on tumblr: dreamy. The boyfriend you imagined that was a conglomerate off all your little crushes? this is what his hair smells like. I might float away on this marshmallow cloud...

Initially I thought I was smelling roasted chestnuts, but I now get the marshmallow note. It’s all a very natural outdoor camping trip kind of smell: leathery goods, campfire and freshly cut wood. With toasting marshmallows. Even the name seems to fit perfectly. Very simple and easy to wear. I would file this under cute.

I don't know if I just got a bad batch or it's something to do with my skin chemistry but something about this smells very stale... it's more cozy at grandma's house than cozy at secret bf's place to me - stale sweets, old books and leather furniture, and a dessicated Christmas tree. To me the marshmallow is too sweet and innocent to really evoke the lingering scent of an illicit romantic encounter. Library Ghost is the superior dark marshmallow scent - the marshmallow is more powdery and less sweet, more like the smell of opening a fresh bag of marshmallows, whereas the marshmallow in this one is more like a gooey one roasted at a campfire. The performance of this one is also terrible for me - most of Poesie's scents are very intimate, but this one is like my nose has to be pressed to my skin after half an hour. I don't hate it tbh it just doesn't stand out to me - I had high expectations based on a brilliant concept and evocative reviews!

i bought this for my boyfriend. i like it, however, there is something off about it that i can't really describe. i can definitely smell the leather, cedar, and pine. i absolutely love how realistic the leather, cedar, and pine smell. however, i won't lie when i say i can also smell the weirdest urine-like scent. it's like an underlying slightest urine scent. i asked my mom and sister to smell it and they said the same thing without me even telling them. don't get me wrong, it doesn't exactly smell bad! it just smells a bit weird for me. i suggest buying their sample size and trying it for yourself before getting the full size.

mostly smoky, toasted marshmallow on me, although you can definitely smell the leather and woods in the background. for me, the leather and pine comes out more at the beginning, the cedar at the end - but a smoky sweetness is there throughout. In the first ten minutes it's almost more like pure burnt sugar than marshmallow, but becomes a more clear toasted marshmallow later. i can be sensitive to leather, especially in sweeter smells, but this still worked for me. i like it, my friend LOVES it, its her favourite scent ever. also, strangely enough, it turns to lemon verbena with a little mint on my sister? which I've seen some people in online reviews mention this happen, so probably best to sample size before full-sizing. the sweetness and pine is reminiscient of christmas for myself, so i think of this as a winter scent more than a fall or spring scent. that said, i could see it working for any cooler day. i think it would also be nice on rainy days.